5 Tips For Increasing Your Self Esteem

Do Things for Yourself
One of the best parenting books I ever read was called The Optimistic Child by Martin E. P. Seligman. The book discusses the rise in childhood depression and suicide rates despite the increasing resources available to us and the opportunities to discuss feelings and emotions with our children. Seligman goes on to show that by teaching children to be self-reliant they increase their self-esteem and outlook on life.

Learning to do things for ourselves, whether taking an art class, learning to change a tire, build a website, write a book, insert your own _________, teaches us that we can depend on ourselves. In doing things for ourselves, we are reminded that all the tools we need are within us. Many of us when confronted with a difficult situation are quick to give up on ourselves, which undermines our sense of self-worth. When, on the other hand, we harness our inner strength and wisdom we increase our faith in ourselves which ultimately boosts our self-esteem.

Stay Present
Our self-esteem is affected when we get sucked into the if onlys and shoulds. Living in the  past or future tells us at a subconscious level that where we are right now is unacceptable. This ultimately translates to who we are is unacceptable. Remaining in the present moment teaches us acceptance for where and who we are. Acceptance is a central key to increasing our self-esteem.

Treat Yourself as Your Own Best Friend
We are constantly sending out “vibes”, messages to others on how to treat us. Treating yourself as your own best friend is a reminder that you deserve your love, attention, and kindness. It means you will hold yourself tenderly when you make a mistake, extend compassion when you need your own forgiveness, and humbly bow down to the humanness and beauty that makes you you. We often get so caught up in what we are lacking, how we failed, or what’s wrong with us. Treating yourself as your own best friend reminds you of your worth and birthright to share and receive love.

Keep A Gratitude Journal
Gratitude journals are a precious reminder of everything that is beautiful with us and around us. What we give our awareness grows. Feed the garden of your soul by continuously celebrating all that is wonderful with you. In this way, you focus your thoughts, words, and actions on your sacredness. When we witness this in ourselves we see beyond the layers of expectations and labels we place on ourselves. We acknowledge our innate goodness.

Trust Yourself
Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Give yourself permission to say no. Give yourself permission to say yes. Give yourself permission to be you. Remember there is only one of you and the world needs your gifts and talents. The world needs your light. The world needs your wisdom. Trusting yourself means you believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself you know you can do anything you put your mind to. When you believe in yourself you know your true value down to your core.

Namaste’