Wednesday, January 16, 2013

THE 2ND CLITORIS:

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By now most of us are hopefully well aware of the 8000 nerve endings in the glans of our clitoris.
That secret part of us, that with touch or simply a thought, will start pulsing and deliciously reverberating pleasure throughout our whole body.
The part of us that can be either numbed out through over-use or still patiently waiting to be discovered and awakened.
And the fun doesn’t stop there. Few of us are aware of our ‘second’ clitoris!
Hidden within our depths is an undiscovered point of bliss, a bliss so great it can even by pass that of our clitoris.

Where’s the proof?
In your pants. Your panties to be more specific.
Anatomically, it is called the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (AFE zone or A-spot). It is found in the deepest part of your vagina, right in front of your cervix (see image below).


So yes, I lied.
This isn’t exactly a second clitoris, but the pleasure generated by this place is so intense, it can be equivalent to or superior to that a clitoral orgasm.
And if you haven’t discovered it yet, do yourself a favor and leave your clitoris alone for a moment and literally spend time inside yourself!

How can I wake this up?
Some of us, through exploring intercourse or sex toys, naturally awaken this area. However, some of us need to explore a little more intentionally.
We all can exercise and enhance this area through regular stimulation.
Why?
We have heard that the last two thirds of our vagina has less sensitivity than the first third.
This is true for an atrophied or untrained pelvis.
Once we exercise our vaginas more regularly, however, we start to enervate our vagina and surrounding pelvic region.
This means that we actually grow more nerves and erectile tissue! And with this grows our capacity for pleasure.

Here are a few ways to exercise this deeper part of our vaginas:
  • We practice ‘sucking’ up a Jade Egg, a sex toy or our partner.
  • We continue ‘milking’ our egg, toy or partner (this is easier if our partner isn’t doing a lot of moving).
  • We can massage this area to awaken it and further enhance it.
Surprise bonus that comes with waking up this epic spot.
Lubrication!
We are meant to be juicy and this leads to more and more juiciness. In fact, if we have issues with lubrication, we would benefit greatly from a regular practice of this deep, internal massage.
The intensity of pleasure may require us to pause between orgasms just so we can better assimilate our expanding bliss.
The other bonus for hetro-sexual couples is that it feels amazing to our partner. As we get stronger and stronger, his pleasure equally intensifies.

What’s more?
We have a 2nd epicenter, or as I like to say, epic-enter!
The Posterior Fornix—located behind the cervix in the same depths as the Anterior Fornix—is what I call: the hidden Bliss-gasm or Bliss spot (see image above).
It is snoring peacefully in most of us, but trust me when I say that it doesn’t mind a little awakening, so long as it isn’t a rude one.
This place is best stimulated by a finger, but also by a toy or partner.
A finger is allows us to sense more thoroughly ‘spot’ we are massaging and assists us in creating a powerful bio-feedback loop of pleasure.
Yet we are more than the sum of our parts…

So what about the cervix?
Our cervix, which is conveniently close to both the Anterior and Posterior Fornix, is not disconnected from them.
In fact, it is vital to include our cervix in this 3 part harmony.
For most of us, the pain of an accidental bump from our partner’s deep thrusting is how we discover our cervix. OW!
But if we were to take a finger and gently massage our cervix, something remarkable happens.
At first, we may not experience much sensation as our cervix may be numb. However, through regular massage (and pelvic exercise), we encourage a stronger blood flow to our cervix and therefore, create more cervical sensation.
It is possible to induce orgasm, both locally in the cervix and in the area of our physical heart. It literally can feel like a heart-gasm! Delicious!!
Beyond just another sex trick, this practice of awakening our deeper erotic zones invites us to trust, love, and explore ourselves without being goal-oriented.
We literally are invited to shift our focus from ‘doing’ something sexually into relaxing into ‘being’ a sexual being.
With this focus on surrendering into our erotic wisdom, we give our body permission to open up in ways we have yet to dream of.
Nothing can be more worthy of our time.

Saida Désilets

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